I have been given “the gift of gab”, I can talk to anyone, anywhere, about anything.
Doesn’t mean the conversation is good, or even interesting but its a conversation and it starts things, which is the most difficult part for people in general.
SO here are a few quick tips on how to START conversations with potential new friends:
1# Use things that are in the environment to talk about - like if you are in a class together, or a meeting, use whatever the event is about/ or the topic (however boring it may have been) You can use things they are holding or wearing as well... Example: if they are holding a purse or a book bag- comment on its color, style or need for.
2# Don’t be negative, even “funny negativity” can be bad
ex: “ Wow did that really only take 1 hour it felt like 5” - you
“ Ummm actually I really liked the meeting....” - person your trying to start a convo with. See now its awkward! So don’t be negative!
3# Ask questions about the person’s opinions or anything about them.
REMEMBER : Everyone likes to talk about themselves and their lives, even if they say they don’t they are either - lying b/c they feel its prideful to be talking about self or they are strange....... (There are always an exception to the rule) .
4# For every way to ask a “normal” question there is a “strange” way to ask it, so be careful.... like make sure they sounds like questions NOT statements.. this has to do with the tone of your voice and the volume.
Ex. “ So thats your purse”
-said at low volume with a bit of attitude - sounds negative and accusing.
said in a happier/ higher pitch with an inquisitive tone- makes it sounds like you are interested b/c you like the bag or want one of your own
DISCLAIMER : These are just a few tips.. try them if they don’t work don’t blame me, blame yourself for bad timing. This advice is for “friend making” not “picking up” on people
IF MAKING FRIENDS Talk to people who are on your same “level”.... don’t try and talk to the “cutest” boy , or the “hottest looking girl”. This might sounds dumb but I feel this is a problem- people are drawn to talking to people that are attracting but when they get there they don’t have anything to say b/c you are distract. (Unless of course you happen to be just as attractive or hott- b/c then you are on the same level.) Start small talk to the nice looking but maybe not “best dressed” girl or boy- you’ll find them more receptive to conversation a good amount of the time.
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