My mom always said that I have a "hard edge" when it goes to truth telling... she's NOT complimenting me. The problem is for me, myself, I'd much rather KNOW the truth, so I can change, take it in, get the food out of my teeth, or work on a friendship.
Most people I know are scared of the Truth. They say they want it, but when it comes down to it they really don't. I was talking to someone and being very honest with them, I felt it was right, it is healthy to be honest. I shared with some friends about it and they were proud of me, they said great job, but then they continued to say how they wished they could be that honest... to which my mind jumped to HOW CAN YOU NOT BE.... not being honest drives me crazy. Well not when its about what's in ur teeth... haha
I believe people are more afraid and insecure then they will ever let on, and IF we were just honest with each other it would make us less afraid and more understanding of ourselves.
I'm a firm believer in "working on ones self" , if we don't do the hard work of dealing with our issues and our insecurities we will never change, we wont grow and we will be stuck in them.
Honesty is a beautiful thing, there should be no fear in it. BUT there is b/c most of the time we can't be honest with ourselves... and that is where we need to start...
I'm still working on that... being honest with myself is the hardest thing... esp when your a women and have a CRAZY amount of emotions.
NOW truth be told, I know that NOT EVERYTHING needs to be said. I'm not saying to go up to your friend and tell her/him everything you've ever thought or felt about them. I'm just saying in moments when the truth is called on... don't be afraid to be honest...
Try it! its freeing and while some might be put off , a healthy dose of honesty might be JUST what they need .
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Being honest concerning facts and concerning matters of advice are two different things though. A person has to be careful that they're not telling their opinion as honest truth.
Thanks you just gave me the courage to have a conversation (or send a text?) I've been dreading. But it's not dreadful. It's just honest.
And you know I love your honesty even more than your hair, right? Almost more than your laugh... Maybe equal. You are my hero.
Claire I wonder what your thinking, b/c I'm talking about being honest with what " you think". My friends hair cut and food in ur teeth might be "facts" MAYBE, but peoples willingness to say what they think when asked.... I'm not saying your right.. just that ur honest. Does that make sense? Honesty can be a hurtful think if people say it as "right" over someones "wrong", but if one states it as what their thinking, what they are feeling.... those are the time I'm talking about when its just to scary to say what we really need to be saying.
So we do need to be careful, just not silent.
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